At ages 4–6, children begin to form real friendships, but arguments are also part of everyday life. Learning to manage conflicts and develop positive relationships is essential for their self-confidence and emotional intelligence. Here are some practical tips to help your child with their social relationships.

Why arguments are normal

Between the ages of 4 and 6, children:

• Discover social rules
  
• Learn to share and negotiate
  
• Test their limits and those of others
  

Conflicts are not a sign of parental failure: they are a normal stage of social development.

1.Teach vocabulary related to emotions

To get along with others, children need to understand and express their feelings:

• Name emotions: “You’re angry because your toy was taken away.”
  
• Encourage expression with simple phrases: “I don’t like that,” “I’m sad.”
  
• Reading books about emotions helps children recognize and understand what others are feeling

2. Set an example

Children learn by observing:

• Handle your own conflicts calmly
  
• Use dialogue and negotiation on a daily basis
  
• Show them how to apologize and forgive
  

3. Encourage sharing and cooperation

• Offer collaborative games rather than competitive ones
  
• Praise positive behavior: “Well done, you shared your pencils”
  
• Explain that arguments are part of the game, but that rules and respect are still important
  

4. Help your child resolve conflicts

• Encourage them to explain what is wrong.
  
• Help them find a solution that is acceptable to both parties
  
• If necessary, suggest a compromise: “You can take turns playing”
  

5. Develop empathy

Empathy is the key to lasting friendships :

• Ask questions: “How do you think your friend feels?”
  
• Encourage them to imagine the consequences of their actions
  
• Praise thoughtful gestures and small acts of kindness

6. Stay available

Children need guidance and support :

• Listen to them talk about their friends and conflicts.
  
• Don’t minimize their emotions.
  
• Only intervene if the situation becomes unmanageable.
  

In summary

Between the ages of 4 and 6, arguments and minor conflicts are part of social development. By naming emotions, setting an example, encouraging sharing, and developing empathy, you can help your child build strong friendships and better manage disagreements. Patience and kindness are key to supporting them through this important stage.